On Friday night I went to go see the regal and breathtaking Black Panther. If you plan to go through this entire weekend having not feasted your eyes on the greatness that is this movie…do better and take yourself, your girls, your partner, your mama, and everyone else right now. No really, right now. I… Read More Black Panther and the Affirmation of My Identity As a Black Woman (No Spoilers!)
Before I start this post, I just want to say thank you. A lot of you have reached out to tell me how Black Girl Musings feels like “Chicken Soup for the Black Woman’s Soul”. Women at work, friends of friends, and even complete strangers have said not just how much they enjoy the blog,… Read More Stop Hurting the People Who Matter
Hey, girl! I’m here and well and alive (again). I got the flu and when I tell you all it took me out…It. Took. Me. Out. I was out of work for a week (anyone who knows my workaholic behind in real life can attest to how serious that is) and still spent most of… Read More There’s Power In Your Standards: Why I Left My Now Husband After Our First Date
I’ve been having an existential crisis. Where I should be and where I am Don’t. Match. Up. But I’m in none of those places, y’all. None. The danger of the highlight reel is real. Because I had to remind myself that I’m not in terrible places. I’m in a school building with kids who give… Read More The Next Wave of Creatives.
I am a career nomad. I change jobs pretty regularly and am forever thinking about the next big idea, project, or position I can take on. I think in completed pictures. Big visions. Audacious goals. As I learn who I am both personally and professionally, I realize I am projected minded. Being confined to a… Read More The Beauty in the ‘In Between’
Recently, I wrote a post entitled What I Miss About Being Single in which I encouraged women who aren’t in relationships, but one day would like to be, to take advantage of 3 key things while they are still single. After releasing that post a few folks asked, “Well, Nicole, how did you know Shamar was the… Read More 5 Ways I Knew He Was My Person
Black Girl Musings is unapologetically designed to be a safe space for black women to celebrate their dopeness and share their frustrations. It is a place that serves as a mirror, a couch, a sounding board, a prayer closet and anything else it needs to be to help us do life. It is about empowering,… Read More White Women’s Comfort Is Suffocating Students
I’ve worked in education my entire adult life. I’ve taught middle school, traveled the country studying K-12 schools, and now I help develop teachers who teach-you guessed it–middle school. Young adult fiction is my jam. Getting kids to analyze text Is. What. I. Do. I am known at my school as The Book Fairy (a… Read More Nah, Sis. Don’t Let Them Define Your Success.
God gave you this bomb vision. You feel inspired by it. And excited for it. And ready to build this thing out. You read about the power of completion over perfection and have overcome a few bumps in the road remembering that 2018 will be just as hard.. And you’re doing it. I see you, girl. (Inserts… Read More Your Vision Is For Cultivating, Not Comparing
I was never someone who dreamed of being married as a little girl. I never held weddings for my barbies. I never thought of what my wedding would look like. And you had to be real special for me to practice a fake signature with my first name and your last. I always knew I’d… Read More What I Miss About Being Single