This blog post is the final part of a three part series entitled: What No One Told Me About Marriage. As I reflect on conversations with a sweet friend who is also married, I realize so many of our conversations begin or end with “But no one told me_____!”. This series is a small–but mighty–look… Read More What No One Told Me About Marriage Part 3: Navigating Your In-Laws
This blog post is part two of a three part series entitled: What No One Told Me About Marriage. As I reflect on conversations with a sweet friend who is also married, I realize so many of our conversations begin or end with “But no one told me_____!”. This series is a small–but mighty–look into… Read More What No One Told Me About Marriage Part 2: Navigating Competing Priorities
I was the first one out of my tribe to get married so for a while, I didn’t have a married friend that I could confide in until I met my sister friend, Ciara. Ciara was a co-worker turned friend who has been married longer than me and we have seen each other through some… Read More What No One Told Me About Marriage Part 1: Navigating Your Past
Before we get into all this literary goodness, let me tell you what we’re not gon’ do. We will not side eye me for it taking so long to get this review of my January (and now February) reads out to you. The end of January kicked my butt. Well, really it was the flu… Read More Book Hangover Worthy Reads for January/February
Last Monday my church had a gathering for the women of our house that changed my life. Now, I’ve heard plenty of people go to a concert, service, or conference and come out saying “I will never be the same” or “I was wrecked” and I always knew what they meant…but I didn’t know, not until… Read More God Isn’t Mad That You Have a Therapist
Before I start this post, I just want to say thank you. A lot of you have reached out to tell me how Black Girl Musings feels like “Chicken Soup for the Black Woman’s Soul”. Women at work, friends of friends, and even complete strangers have said not just how much they enjoy the blog,… Read More Stop Hurting the People Who Matter
Hey, girl! I’m here and well and alive (again). I got the flu and when I tell you all it took me out…It. Took. Me. Out. I was out of work for a week (anyone who knows my workaholic behind in real life can attest to how serious that is) and still spent most of… Read More There’s Power In Your Standards: Why I Left My Now Husband After Our First Date
I’ve been having an existential crisis. Where I should be and where I am Don’t. Match. Up. But I’m in none of those places, y’all. None. The danger of the highlight reel is real. Because I had to remind myself that I’m not in terrible places. I’m in a school building with kids who give… Read More The Next Wave of Creatives.
I am a career nomad. I change jobs pretty regularly and am forever thinking about the next big idea, project, or position I can take on. I think in completed pictures. Big visions. Audacious goals. As I learn who I am both personally and professionally, I realize I am projected minded. Being confined to a… Read More The Beauty in the ‘In Between’
Recently, I wrote a post entitled What I Miss About Being Single in which I encouraged women who aren’t in relationships, but one day would like to be, to take advantage of 3 key things while they are still single. After releasing that post a few folks asked, “Well, Nicole, how did you know Shamar was the… Read More 5 Ways I Knew He Was My Person
